Cleo is a mum of two and the founder of House of Cleo, a business through which she offers life coaching and runs women’s empowerment events, hosting cake meets, brunches and workshops and encouraging women to live life on their own terms.
Who are you?
I’m Cleo. I am a creative, ambitious, sometimes spontaneous, curious, honest and giving person. The need to help others is so strong within me and has been since as long as I can remember. I am very intentional in the way I live, although there a few fuck it moments when I eat a whole box of doughnuts, or drive across the country just to experience a new place or help a friend.
I am a mum of two: a toddler and a teen who has just turned 18 and my gosh is it rough! There are joyful moments, but my goodness my heart is titanium by now from all it’s been through.
Where do you live and with whom?
I live in Watford with my partner and two children: an 18 year old daughter and a 2 year old son. Neither planned, but both incredibly loved. I’ve been with my partner five years. We met at a music festival in Mayrhofen Austria. Life is definitely different now!
What’s your home-life like?
Exhausting, chaotic and full of challenges.
How does your home make you feel?
Like I need to change it, hence why I do all I do and push myself so much. I would love to design and build my own house with real clever storage and design quirks.
Tell me about your business and how you came up with the idea?
House of Cleo is my business. I run empowerment events for women and offer 1-2-1 life coaching. I am at the beginning of my business journey and loving every step of it. I just wish I had the dedicated time to sit and get everything how I want it. I have to steal time between night shifts and toddler wrangling and this can be very frustrating because the plans I have for the business are so vivid. I just want to help women realise their potential, their greatness, their ability to create amazing soulful lives on their own terms! I know what it’s like to be down on yourself and let the naysayers get the better of you.
What’s the best and worst thing about having your own business?
I love knowing that I’m creating something of value that can change someone’s life for the better. The worst thing is not having the time to dedicate to it and not having the support or understanding of those closest to you.
What is one of your most recent wins?
A win for me is finding people online who understand and support what I am doing. Without the online community it would be a lot harder for me to push through those times when my brain talks trash and tries to convince me to stay where I am and don’t ever change. I’m so grateful for those relationships and I really appreciate every bit of encouragement.
And one of your most recent challenges?
Launching the coaching side of things. It’s something I’ve done for years because I love helping people and kept getting told ‘why don’t you charge for what you’re doing’, but I never saw it as a business. Now I’m more confident in myself, my skills and my experience. I know I can benefit others, but putting a price on it is really uncomfortable and brings up a lot of blockers that were instilled in me as a child. But I’m feeling the fear and doing it anyway. I’ll learn on the way, improve and evolve. I’m all about start now and get perfect later, otherwise you’ll get to the end of your life with a shit ton of regrets. Regrets are painful and I just can’t live that way. I’ve done some crazy shit in my life but I regret nothing because at the time it was what felt right for me.
How do you balance your work-life and your home-life and everything else?
I don’t think there is such a thing as balance. Something will always take your main focus and everything else will work around it. The focus changes from time to time, but I currently am coming from a place of short term sacrifice for long term gains. I didn’t even go to a festival this year! Now that might not be a big deal to some, but my gosh, let me tell you it really is! I love festivals, how I feel when I’m there and the people I meet are so varied and colourful.
What kinds of activities do you do to recharge and how do they help?
ALWAYS doughnuts and Netflix.
I listen to audiobooks a lot. Every night shift at work I listen to a whole book usually. These are psychology, business related, autobiographies and a few novels thrown in.
I love silence too, as it helps me tune into my mind and my body and how I’m feeling. I can lay on the bed after a bath and just do that for ten minutes.
Oh and baths! I love to monifest in the bath. Yes, I’m making up words. That’s a combination of money and manifestation. I like to have a hot bath with a Lush bath bomb and really visualise how I want my life to be. Really feeling the emotions and imagining the sensations of the furniture and fixings, me sitting in my eco home with the natural light pouring through the floor to ceiling windows while I admire the view outside of the lush green fields.
It really makes me feel good when I’m visualising as if I already have it and it’s destined for me. It’s this feeling that gets me through those tough days when I really don’t want to go to work.
What are the triggers you recognise as a signal you need to make some time and space for yourself?
Feeling irritable. When I feel that way, I usually don’t want to talk to anyone, so will stay quiet because it feels like I’m draining too much energy. I become more sarcastic, but in an aggy way. My brain says no and I can’t think or process anything, even simple tasks.
If you could deliver one piece of advice to an overwhelmed mum, what would it be?
Don’t let the media or social media fool you! Everyone is struggling in their own way. When you become a mum, suddenly everything is your fault and everyone and their mum wants to tell you what you are doing wrong and how you should mother. Listen to your gut, trust yourself and only ask advice from non-judgmental people you trust. Being a mum is the hardest, most unappreciated role in the world. Find your way of doing things. Don’t worry about how things look to others. Your health and the health of your baby is of the upmost importance, not the opinion of others!
You can find Cleo on Instagram @house.of.cleo